The reasons you do not confront your husband is because it will do much harm, no good, and probably spin off into much more drama. Marriage is a give and give relationship, based on premises of each striving to love unconditionally. Why must i be so much better then i am to deserve to truly be cared for. I have been married for 10 years. In ways he wants you to be loving. Some smart men got scared; good! But today I found him on another one claiming to be single and to having no children.
Cheating Partners on Dating Sites 20th November, 2013 How to check if a husband or wife has a dating site profile and is cheating on you with other people. So, I ask—is it really fair to criticize me for being angry and feeling like giving up? However, the fact is neither women or men understand marriage when they get married or ever, in most cases , and by the time the marriage is falling apart it is almost always only one of you that wants to do anything about it. Is it right that they should do so? We both are seniors with very bad experiences in the past and he has many good qualities. I am mad yes Id like to kick his ass for being so stupid and If pursues these women Ill have my answer I also know all it will take is one of his manic episodes and they wont stick around but I dont have to be a doormate either. Your son in law is hurting, too.
If you distrust him this much, then don't stay in the relationship. I have seen some true miracles based on what people have come to expect. I am glad that your love is true, that you do not condemn him. I feel as if this behavior destroys me. Otherwise you will never be able to forgive what he did. She openly admits that but letting it go so many times, I feel she thinks its acceptable behavior that if found out i will over look if I catch her.
Just a little background info and now back to the point. As a matter of interest 16% of men reported that their relationship remained the same after their marriage. I reassured him and he seemed to accept this, he said he was afraid I was cheating because of my high sex drive, this was totally untrue, I let him have my phone, emails and so on and there was no evidence of a problem so he calmed down and accepted I have always been faithful. Dear Christina It saddens me to see in your example how women have been convinced that the shallowness of sex and surface relationships is all you need. Would you expect a man with a broken arm to carry a piano? He does everything you can think of to do.
My girlfriend cheated a while ago, but I still do not fully trust her. Have been going to therapy for 1 month now. I do hope there are no children involved. Dear Eliza…You are 100% on track with how you evaluate the various aspects of your situation. I always thought he was the sweetest, most loyal, loving family man. Usually all the power to heal things is in the hands of the wife. From the start a week after we were married he was talking to other girls.
The husband who cheats is, by definition, unable to handle his married life or wife and has found an escape. Am highly sexed and he was aware of this before all this started. Marriage is not, and was never meant to be give and take, or fair. I am an honest and perceptive woman. I would laser focus on our materials, books or course, or both; and let her know you are trying with all you have…but I would not expect anything from her in return. Leaving will not help, either! You said you worked on your marriage…but how? It is not your fault, of course.
I asked her what and she said that is was pictures and dating site. What would you tell your kids to do? Most of these guys need a fresh perspective on their marriage and their lives, not a divorce. As you say, he is too immature. I do not condone his behaviors, but the advice that some experts give, to confront, and somehow get him to come around is dangerous. Dear Ashley You are smart to continue to be a good wife, despite his mistakes. He has been unfaithful and has been on dating sites a couple of different times. Check the temporary Internet files and history log on your computer.
I am not a therapist nor am I affiliated with this website. Recently my girlfriend tells me he is messaging her through a dating site. She wants to have the marriage work, but he moved out- at least part time, he does help with the baby. I also discovered that he had been cheating for the 2nd time, this time his affair partner was a married woman. The things you did are aggressive, confrontational, intense. Apart from the fact that could stand accused of doing exactly what you suspect your partner of doing joining a dating site to meet other people if you were discovered, the likelihood of your partner falling into your trap and contacting you in among the hundreds of sites and thousands of profiles and asking you for a date is extremely unlikely.
If you wish to save your marriage, you probably can, but not with your present thinking. I just recently found out 4 days ago that my husband was on a couple of dating sites for locals to meet. Since he has been doing it for a long time before we met I would not expect that he would drop it immediately. This article is not for you if where you want to start, and end, is with condemnation of your husband. I felt very angry as this was going on for quite some time. In some cases the husband might be using alcohol, drugs, or be impacted by something nobody can see, and those cases are tougher. I feel like our marriage was a big waste of my time.
All I can think of is the Movie FireProof and the Love Dare Book. So we finally talked and I chose to continue the relationship if he could confront the ex and tell her he would not be speaking with her anymore. There are other strange behaviors which could be relevant, yet which she frankly denies any cheating. But that is not our experience. However, if they did not erase it, you will have all the proof you need right there.